is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met, someone you watch on tv?

nothing is easier than to desire people we don’t know. getting to know someone is generally a highly unromantic process, for it means discovering that other people are ultimately as inadequate and anxious as we are.

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we don’t need beauty to make art. art is inspired precisely by the absence of beauty, the recollection and nostalgia for a beauty we do not clearly possess.

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life is essentially a tragic business for all of us. Why? because all our loved ones will die and our children are mortal.

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how terrible would it be if, in 100 years, people didn’t have relationships with each other, but with robots and computers?

one can fully imagine sex with machines, but somehow love with seems harder. why? because at the end of the day, we all are troubled with the question: does she/he really love me? or is she/he faking?
the robots just couldn’t reassure us enough, the robots could never quell our anxious narcissism.

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it is recognised that to be good at sex requires practice, even thought. less common is the idea that love would require equall effort. in other words, it’s not just a feeling, it’s a discipline – an art.

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do you think certain animals love each other?

it’s uncomfortably likely that yes, animals feel a lot more that we hope they might when we fry them up for supper. they probably are seduced by one another’s lively appearance.
they feel tenderly towards children, they are saddened bu death. they cry. what does that make of us? casual murderers of course.
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interviu cu alain de botton in another magazine despre noua sexualitate.
domnul care a pus intrebarile acestea magice se numeste dan crowe.
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alain de botton are carti traduse si in romaneste; eseuri de indragostit, despre farmecul lucrurilor plictisitoare, consolarile filozofiei si sex, shopping si-un roman.